Helping with feeds
Having a new baby can definitely be a frustrating time – for you, because you've
got such a big job to do, and for dads, because they feel a bit like a spare part.
But there's actually quite a lot dads can do to help, even though they’re not the
one with the on-tap milk supply!
• Some moms find expressing milk difficult or painful so this isn't always an option,
but if you are able to
express milk you should wait until your baby’s 6 to 8 weeks old and used
to breastfeeding before you start letting your partner take over some feeds. This
should stop your milk supply from drying up and make sure your baby doesn’t start
to prefer a bottle over your breast.
• Getting dad involved with some feeds also helps them to bond with the baby but
give it some time – your baby may take time to adjust to this new feeding method,
so make sure your partner keeps on trying.
• If he can take over one of the night-time feeds ,if will be the greatest help,
as it allows you to have a much longer sleep.
Skin-to-skin contact with dad
A good way for dad to build the bond with your baby is to have skin-to-skin contact
with them, just as your baby has with you during breastfeeds. So try getting dad
to put your baby on his shirtless chest for a cuddle, or even a quick nap!
Once the bond is built with dad, your baby may feel more comfortable about taking
bottlefeeds of expressed milk from him. But don’t let dad take it personally if
your baby doesn’t take a bottlefeed; some babies simply prefer the breast.
Getting support from your partner
Breastfeeding can be hard work. You’re quite likely to be emotional in the first
few weeks after giving birth with little energy for anything more than looking after
your baby.
It’s important for dads to be supportive and understanding and to take on the majority
of the tasks that need doing around the home, including cleaning, shopping and cooking.