• It's OK and normal to be tired.
• Nobody is a perfect parent.
• Nobody is a perfect spouse/partner.
• Accept (not resent) the fact that your life will change - a positive change that takes work.
• Remember that your spousal relationship came first. You have to work on this so your family stays strong. Partners are very important during this time and you will have less time alone together as a couple - don't shut each other out - you need to work together as a team!
What you can do:
• Compliment each other every day.
• Make time for romance. For example, set aside special time your you and your partner or leave love notes for each other.
• Hug each other as often as possible.
• Smile. A smile is contagious and a definite mood elevator.
• Spend time doing something for yourself each day. While dad/partner spends time with baby, go out for a walk, listen to music or read.
• Keep in mind you will have bad days. You are not the only one.
• Talk to other new parents like us! We have been there before =) And will help where we can!